Living –Part II of III
Have you been practising listening for
your inner voice, following your leadings, being thankful morning
and night for being alive, and living more in the moment? Remember,
what you practise, you get good a : so, best to consciously pick
what you will practise, because you WILL get to be good at
What about fun? Do you consciously fit
fun into your daily life? I hope so, because fun people are…well…fun
to be with! Have you had the experience of getting completely caught
up in someone else’s laughter, and letting ‘er rip because it feels
so good? Isn’t it a great thing? But how often are YOU the one
laughing and getting others caught up in that?
We know that laughter is the
best medicine, and that people who laugh a lot feel better than
those who don’t. Children laugh spontaneously just way, way more
than adults do. And kids just naturally feel good a lot of the
time if we leave them to be kids.
Somehow we allow ourselves to lose
that part of ourselves, that child, as we grow toward and through
adulthood. What a good thing to consciously decide to recapture. The
child in myself. Being willing to see the funny side of what happens
and to laugh with it, not always at it, is such a release.
Have you someone who comes to mind who
seems to pick the negative in most situations and talk, moan, focus
on it? Does someone else come to mind who seems to see that same
event and can laugh about it when it goes sideways?
Wouldn’t you rather be around the
laugher? I would. So I choose to each day look for the sunny side.
Not like some bubble headed Pollyanna because that’s not only
irritating but also it’s unreal. But being balanced means I can and
will see the whole picture and if that picture is black, will look
around for the Light that it always brings too. The darkest
experience will provide a lesson that is valuable. And black humour
IS humour. It can make me laugh at the darndest things. How ‘bout
Being willing to see the light side is
a conscious decision you can make each day. Be on the lookout for it
and you will have way more fun than the dour, sour,
negative-thinking person you try to avoid.
As well, you will be producing
endorphins and serotonin. And those feel-good chemicals will keep
your energy up, your spirit nourished, your eyes bright, and your
will to live in the present healthy.
Consciously slotting in fun activities
each day is a practice you can include until it becomes a habit. NOT
having fun activities on your daily plan is a habit. So change the
habit of excluding fun to a habit of including it. What you
practise, you get to be good at. Choose a habit that makes you feel
great, makes you healthier, happier and more fun.
Creativity, Fear and
To understand how fear blocks
creativity, take a moment to imagine yourself telling a story.
First, imagine telling the story to someone you love and who loves
you. You probably feel warmth and energy as you fill in the
details of your tale to your friend's delight. Now, imagine
telling the same story to someone who, for whatever reason, makes
you uncomfortable. The wonderful twists and turns, the fine
points and colourful images that unfolded in your mind for your
friend probably won't present themselves. Instead of warmth,
energy, and creativity, you will probably feel opposite sensations
and a desire to close down. When we feel unsafe, whether we fear
being judged, disliked, or misunderstood, our creative flow
stops. Alternately, when we feel safe, our creativity unfolds
like a beautiful flower, without conscious effort.
Knowing this, we can maximize our
creative potential by creating the conditions that inspire our
creativity. In order to really be in the flow, we need to feel
safe and unrestricted. However, achieving this is not as
simple as avoiding people who make us feel uncomfortable. Sometimes
we can be alone in a room and still feel totally blocked. When
this happens, we know we have come up against elements in our own
psyches that are making us feel fearful. Perhaps we are
afraid that in expressing ourselves we will discover something we
don't want to know, or unleash emotions or ideas that we don't want
to be responsible for. Or maybe we're afraid we'll fail to
produce something worthy.
When you're up against fear, internal
or external, ritual can be a powerful and creative antidote.
Before you sit down to be creative, take a few long, deep breaths,
expanding your belly and chest on the inhale and contracting your
navel on the exhale. Then cast a circle of protection around
yourself - visualize yourself standing inside an oval of
light. Imagine that this protective energy emanates
unconditional love for our and wants to hear, see, and feel
everything you have to express. Take a moment to bathe in the
warm glow of this feeling and then fearlessly surrender yourself to
the power that flows through you.
This is the beginning
of light's love returning to the earth, the warmth thawing through
ice and cold is the start of green returning.
already the roots of
grasses dream of rising, the lilies of spring remember opening their
white elegance their white and gold like the mute swan even now
floating among the geese at Cedar Beach, dreams of warm water and
children playing along the bank.
This is what you mean
to me, oh Mother sun. You mean the essence of life. I
"It really boils down
to this: that all life is inter-related...caught in an inescapable
network of mutuality, tied into a single garment of destiny.
What affects one directly, affects all indirectly. We are made to
live together because that is the inter-related structure of
reality' Martin Luther King